Feeling Like You’re Missing Out?


So He said to them, “Assuredly, I say to you, there is no one who has left house or parents or brothers or wife or children, for the sake of the kingdom of God, 30 who shall not receive many times more in this present time, and in the age to come eternal life.” Luke 18:29-30 (NKJV)

The Christian life is one in which we will undoubtedly face the hardships of our lifestyle being opposite of cultural norms. The whole concept of Christianity goes directly against what has been set up in this world as “normal”. While the impact of the decision to live set apart is felt through all generations, it is especially difficult for children, teens and young adults. It is during these stages in life where we are still heavily influenced by outside forces, like media and our peers, and therefore find it more difficult to be detached from society’s acceptance yet content in who we are.

I wrote this blog in hopes of encouraging all people, especially our young people, that to live for Christ is gain not loss, even though at times you may feel or be told the exact opposite.

I know the struggle of striving to live a Christian life as a child, teen and now young adult personally. I love God and made a lot of decisions at a young age to live according to biblical standards. Of course I’m not perfect, I have faltered in my life, but my core conviction in the way I choose to live my life has never changed. Many people looked and still look at that faith, that resolve to seek holiness and purity, and applaud it, never knowing that I wasn’t always solid in that conviction. Sometimes I truly wondered, “Am I missing out?”

I can’t count how many conversations I’ve been in with my peers where they’re recounting these wild college stories, party nights, and drunken adventures with laughs of how crazy they used to be and I sit silently, unable to participate. Because while they were out having “the time of their life”, I was choosing holiness…I was choosing wisdom…I was choosing to remain sober-minded…I was choosing Christ.

Gosh, they made it sound so fun; they have so many memories to look back on. They lived life exactly the way they wanted, did all they could possibly do out there in the world and still ended up saved and living for Jesus. Is this really fair? Shockingly enough, yes it is. Outside of the huge mistake of judging the outcome of your faith walk against someone else’s, there’s a key component you have to consider and it’s found in the book of Luke.

For which of you, intending to build a tower, does not sit down first and count the cost, whether he has enough to finish it. Luke 14:28 (NKJV)

If you’re really living this thing like you’re supposed to, it requires sacrifice. And guess what? God knows it! In the midst of telling a great multitude of people that in order to follow him they must hate their family and their own life meaning be willing to give them all up (Luke 14:26-27), He also acknowledges a need to count the cost. He basically tells them they need to acknowledge that a sacrifice is in order and be absolutely sure that they are able to handle it.

So I know this answer is completely unexpected but yes, you are missing out. 

  • You’re missing out on the emptiness of living life without pursuing the purpose and destiny given to you by the God who created you.
  • You’re missing out on the shame and guilt of a life that knows no repentance, no grace and no forgiveness.
  • You’re missing out on unwise decisions and sins that lead to a lifetime of consequences.
  • You’re missing out on having to go through life without the help and guidance of the all-knowing, all powerful, ever present God.
  • You’re missing out on chasing money and people to fill your desires and always coming up short.
  • You’re missing out on the sorrow of giving your precious body to someone who doesn’t care about your soul or love you the way you were always meant to be loved.
  • You’re missing out on the drugs, alcohol, parties and clubs that give you only a temporary escape from a life that you NEED escaping from.

And that’s just a small tidbit of the many struggles of living life without God.

So yes you are missing out, but it’s your job to count that cost when you say yes to living for Jesus. It’s not about what anyone else is doing or has done in the past, it’s about you. Assess your motives. Do you feel like you’re missing out because you still have one foot in the world and one foot in the Word? Sin should never be attractive enough to make you question if participating in it would be good for you. Be certain of this: to live for Christ is truly to gain but you will definitely have to make some sacrifices along the way. Make sure it’s worth it.

Be Encouraged,


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